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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Believe me, I know this is my issue and not theirs. I haven’t been pushing them because I don’t want them to be stressed out and neurotic when academics don’t come naturally easily to them. I guess I’m trying to see what others are doing bc it seems like it’s a real problem if a kid is average. Even PPs above are suggesting ADHD. I realize not everyone is going to be a superstar professor or CEO or math genius. Academics came easily to me my whole life. I didn’t need tutors or SAT prep classes etc. I just did well. So it’s admittedly difficult for me to see my kids struggling with what came so easily to me.

And what’s wrong with classifying oneself as Type A? I wish I wasn’t so intense about things, but I am. My kids, and one in particular is definitely Type B. She couldn’t care less about schoolwork or tests or grades. She enjoys art and music and dance. But I am trying to explain to her that she needs a solid education even if she ends up in art school or culinary school. [/quote]

Maybe I don't get it bc I'm Asian, but why can't you push your kids? We were pushed growing up. Not every kid was an academic genius -- most weren't in fact. And yet due to very high parental expectations my Asian friends/siblings/I are ivy grads; med school grads; lawyers (all top 10 schools) etc. Sure some kids got it easily, some kids had SAT tutoring starting in 7th grade to make it to a 1500+ score. There are advantages and doors that open from certain schools and certain professions - as you well know. Why not push the kids? And I don't get why people are bagging on OP. Sorry I had certain expectations for myself educationally/professionally/financially and I expect the same of my kids. I'm not suggesting that it's going to come down to -- I went to MIT so you must go to MIT, but I do expect them to go to comparable schools and sorry to me Va. Tech and UVa and UMD aren't it.[/quote]

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