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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it so pathetic that anyone would feel entitled to someone else’s 401k - man or woman. If you wanted a 401k, get a job and earn it.[/quote]

I agree. I’m the XDW with the XDH who is going after my 401(k). We earned about the same income and we both had 401(k)s. But I managed to save a lot more even though I paid 100% of the mortgage and maybe 80% of the private school bills. I used to joke to my mom and sister that I didn’t know where his paycheck went. I still don’t.

That said, trying to get something different than a 50-50 split is really hard. The greedy spouse will always argue that they couldn’t save because they were footing car repair bills or new appliances or whatever each month. At the end of the day, the judge will probably decide that household money is fungible, and unless you can prove an account in the Cayman Islands or that he supported his AP in an apartment or something, spending your money to get your lawyers to pursue this, or hiring a forensic accountant, probably isn’t worth your time. Of course every case is different, and talk to your lawyer about your own case, but this is what my lawyers told me.

I can still think XDH is greedy and pathetic, though.[/quote]

So you weren't relying on ex spouse to be free domestic labor while you earned the money? Not really the same then. 
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Relying on them to be free domestic labor? Do “they” have no say in the matter?[/quote]

Both my husband and I work (making very similar money, both in high demand professional jobs) but it'd be a huge boost to each of our careers if one of us would quit and manage the household. If he did it, no doubt half the money would be rightfully his. Assuming he didn't sit on his ass and play video games while I kept paying for a nanny. [/quote]

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