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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]omg OP! Another thread? What is your point? You are trolling this forum.

I think these threads should be moved out of infertility. It's not helping women conceive. [/quote]

Stop trolling.[/quote]

NP: OP, we get it, you have an agenda, you don't want any discussion.  Unfortunately for you that isn't how open discussion forums work.  I suggest you try blogging.[/quote]

You have an agenda. Your agenda is to block discussion about open vs. anonymous gamete donation. People on this forum want to discuss that. People (other than me) asked "What if you donated sperm or eggs" and "Would you use DE" and other such questions. People want to have open discussion and hear form other people with different point of view. People will do what they want to do regardless of other people's opinions. This discussion is not affecting anyone's ability to conceive, such claim is ridiculous. You have complained to Jeff. You have posted from different devices calling all of us trolls. You have tried character attacks. Stop. Please stop. Do not read any thread that you don't like. But stop trying to prevent others who want to have a discussion from having it.[/quote]

I posted the comment above your and one other comment in this thread (the one about being a lesbian and going to mandatory counseling).  I just think you are working with a lot of mis-perceptions.

1. You think only one person is questioning you, and clearly there are several of us.
2. That people who use "donated" genetic material are unaware of potential identity issues for their kids-this is actually a hot topic that's widely discussed among people thinking about using donor sperm or eggs, and at least among queer parents to be, trends are strongly in favor of using known or willing to be known donors.
3. As I said earlier in the thread, at least in Maryland every single person who seeks to have a child using donated genetic materials has to go through counseling, which covers challenges that donor conceived children may face, and the best ways to discuss these issues with kids.
4. In my understanding of the research, as well as the [b]hundred of donor conceived kids of gay parents I personally know[/b], the issue isn't having a donor, it's having a donor that's kept secret and then finding out as a teen or adult.  When kids have always known that they have a donor they may want to learn more, but they don't have the sense of betrayal and loss that comes with having their origins hidden.
5. I think this would be a great topic for discussion if the OP would allow discussion, but I don't think it should be on the infertility board-use of donated genetic material isn't just a topic for people dealing with infertility, and I do think OP's tone is particularly unkind to people on this board.[/quote]

I am kinda curious about how you came to know a hundred of donor-conceived kids of gay parents.  I don't think I know a hundred kids, all told, and here you are with a hundred of kids from a very specific type of family that you know personally.  How come?[/quote]

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