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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The goal of marriage counseling is to improve the communication between the partners.  It is not for a therapist to tell either party what to do.

If you want your wife to stop seeing someone else, then you say that.  Your wife then responds and the therapist helps with the communication.

While it seems like a given to save a marriage, there should only be two people in it, it still needs to said aloud.[/quote]

I am giving you money to counsel us how to fix a marriage. In most people's world that means helpful suggestions should be included.  Helping us communicate is fine. Telling a spouse that cheating is not good for a marriage is also good. [/quote]

Listen, it’s natural for the cheated-on spouse to want to be told they’re right and the cheating partner is wrong, or you’re “good” and he/she is “bad.” Those labels aren’t constructive. The focus needs to be on communicating what needs of both partners haven’t been or aren’t being met. [/quote]

It’s not a matter of judging or saying what is right or wrong.  BUT if you are paying money it would common sense to point out that if they keep cheating ie the reason the two people are sitting there. That the marriage was is over.  All you are saying is buy a book or pay a lawyer because paying a counselor is pointless 
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