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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]OP, there must be a lot divorced moms commenting here. You struck a nerve with them. [/b]

Why can't your boyfriend write his own checks? I wouldn't give an ex spouse access to a bank account.

However, I dated a divorced single dad with shared custody of a seven-year-old child. The mother, his ex, never paid her half of the bills for music lessons, sports, etc., even though it was in their agreement. He had to take her to court to get her to pay her half. He was a lawyer.

Maybe your ex has his reasons and he is weaning her off of thinking that his money is also her money. [/quote]

Not divorced but I write the majority of the kid activity checks and there are times of year where I feel like every time I turn around ...I just wrote a check for $250 to cover aftercare and an overnight school trip where I don’t ever remember hearing the cost ahead of time.  In another month I will have the spring sports and I am the midst of summer camp signups.  I wouldn’t necessarily want to wait to be reimbursed if I didn’t need to.  This way both are paying their half at the same time and neither is waiting on the other.[/quote]

Your situation is very different.  Its part of the divorce settlement.  One would assume Mom/CP is getting child support so she can use some of that money upfront.  She cannot commits dad without communicating the need.  Its very easy to do a bank transfer or send a bank check or paypal or another company.  You don't need to communicate with your spouse, but in a divorce but need to agree.  Some of it should be covered under child support.[/quote]

How would child support cover his half of an activity that he pays for outside of the child support?  You don’t necessarily know your child’s 10th grade class trip will be $250 at the time of divorce.  You wouldn’t want to overestimate or underestimate some of those types of costs.[/quote]

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