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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I have a 7th grade DD who is very into sports, and won't wear dresses, and insists on crocs for dress shoes (a dressier ballet-slipper-type croc, not the standard)

It's part of their rebellion and identity.  It's ok.  I tell my DD that it's fine for 99% of the time, but one has to dress appropriately for the occasion.  And that 1% of the time, the occasion will call for it.

If you lighten up, they will get over it.  They want it to be their choice to dress up, and not feel coerced.  It's about them feeling like they have control.  (better this than other forms of rebellion.  And developmentally they need to rebel so it's a great choice of how to rebel)

Even though we are Catholic, my DD was invited to some bat mizvahs and we did go dress shopping.  So she wears the dress, with basketball shorts underneath and a Nike sports bra.  And the crocs.

Last December, we had a once-in-a-lifetime chance to take a 3 generation family photo.  We had it out over the crocs.  I just gave in, but packed the bootlets "just in case."  Then I accidently forgot the crocs.  I freaked out because I thought she'd go ballistic, cry, and be all angry/puffy for the photo.  But she knew it was an accident, and just said, "it's ok mom," and wore the bootlets.  And the Nike bra and the basketball shorts under the dress.  LOL

So I am trying to analyze this for a boy...is there some rebellous underwear or socks he could wear with the khakis, so he satisfies his need for control ("I'm wearing the khakis but ha!  I've got the crazy socks on underneath")[/quote]

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