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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an SMC by adoption. I used to belong to a local SMC group years ago. At the time, there were members like m who had adopted, as well as those who did donor insemination and those who got pregnant the old fashioned way, and were still all on their own. In fact, the founder of the national organization, Jane Mattes, got pregnant buy a man, and chose to parent alone.[b] I left the local group because, over the years, the group became more and more focused on fertility issues, and less inclusive of SMCs who became or were pursuing motherhood in other ways.[/b] Also, as my child got older, the way in which I became a mom was less important.
OP, on the one hand, yes I understand that being an SMC has particular challenges around time, dating and finances. It is really tough. OTOH, moms with no support at all from a partner are in similar situations, so there is no need to ignore their advice and support.
And yes, there have been many career opportunities and chances for advancement that I have had to pass up over the past decade due to being and SMC.[/quote]

The meetup page for the SMC group is very exclusionary now, it specifically says "This group is not for single woman who conceived using a partner that is no longer in the picture or for women that got pregnant accidentally and decided to keep the child. We respect you and your journey, but there are other support groups for those situations."

The funny thing is, there aren't other support groups! I felt too embarrassed to join a regular expectant moms group because I didn't want to have to explain that the dad wasn't in the picture, so I didn't get to do any of that stuff. [/quote]

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