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[quote=Anonymous]Why Does He Do That was a great book.  For me, normal arguments seem to be about one person, being uoswt, telling the other person, and that person either addressing the concern and/or apologizing and a solution decided upon by both parties how to accomplish whatever it was.

In my abusive marriage, arguments were created by tasks being directly addressed by me, husband ignoring them, and then he acting like I was crazy after the 5th time I had to ask him to address something. Many abusers can never be wrong, so the argument goes in circles. You are never allowed to win an argument, and there is no apology, unless that apology is later for verbal or physical abuse. Never an apology for the initial situation. Many things were done to purposefully make me angry. Handing the 3 year old a razor in front of me. Letting her touch the hot stove after I asked him not to. He wanted to start fights.

When it came to the trash or the dishes, as soon as DH did it one time, his narrative would change. He then always had taken out the trash, always did the dishes, and did all of the childcare. He would tell me I never did any of it, even though I had been doing it all by myself for years.  [/quote]

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