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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Um, hate to break it to you, but the problem wasn't co-sleeping.[/quote]

This. And a marriage counselor or couples therapist would have told you this long ago and possibly helped you salvage your marriage.

Did you ever work on improving things either by insisting you and he get to counseling together or by going for counseling or therapy on your own, OP? If you proceeded all the way to telling him to leave without ever doing more than lying there seething about how he wouldn't cuddle -- you fooled yourself out of your marriage. The lack of intimacy has to have roots that go a lot farther back than when your child was born. He might have had a shot at dealing with whatever made him so reluctant to be intimate that he used your child as a way to distance himself from you in bed, but you and he both have let things slide until he's going. Unless you really want to be a divorced mom, and unless you cannot recall any reason why you married him in the first place -- get to therapy for both of you and get your child into his own room. The latter will be stressful now because your child is so used to your room being his room.

Probably the best thing you could do is go away with DH for  a week (not a night) and have a relative come stay in your house with your toddler. Your child will fuss. Your child also will not remember this later and will survive it. But you seem to be letting your marriage disappear and are willing to blame it on co-sleeping -- you don't see the larger issues, whatever they are. They were there BEFORE you had your child, and may come from DH's own upbringing or yours or both. [/quote]

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