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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here’s what happened. Went skiing out west with DH, another couple (one person is my cousin) and two other people (not married).

The men must have talked about leaving at a specific time in the morning to ski, but I was not part of that conversation.

When I woke up on first day of skiing, I had a scratchy throat, and had stubbed my toe on DH’s board bag the night before. Looked in DH’s board bag for my thermals and couldn’t find them, so got a little frantic (it was in the teens).  Went upstairs and DH had made eggs, but everyone had eaten all of them except left a tiny bite for me. I gave the tiny bite to DH to finish off, then made my own eggs.

Meanwhile everyone has eaten, so they get ready to go. I’m still finishing my eggs. The men wait outside for my DH to go, but at that point, I didn’t ask them to wait, since they clearly had talked about a time, and I wasn’t part of that convo.  So they leave and my cousin waits for me.

After I finish eggs, I go back to room and find my thermals on the bed. DH had moved them there. I change, look for my helmet and goggles, can’t find them so go out without them, try to put rented skis on but bindings are too tight, plus hurts with stubbed toe, so give up. Thought about driving back down to ski shop to get bindings loosened, but an hour later, it starts snowing quite hard so don’t feel comfortable driving someone else’s rental.

[b]When the men return, DH asks about helmet - tell me it was in his backpack, which I didn’t know to look into. Other than that short convo, I didn’t say anything else or snap at anyone, including DH.[/b] Honestly I felt excluded from the beginning of that morning when the men clearly had talked about a plan and waited on each other, but not me.

And I’m usually not a person that keeps others waiting - in this case, I just couldn’t find my thermals and it turns out DH had taken them out of the bag and moved them without telling me, so I felt frantic as soon as I woke up.  Yes, I was cold and irritated, but I certainly wasn’t raging such that others would think it’s okay to talk about me like that. But yes, you’re right that others didn’t know DH had moved my stuff, which made me a little frantic, so they must have assumed I was unreasonably late and upset for no reason.
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Not enough to be super upset about.  Honestly, you sound frazzled either because you lost your thermals and helmet or frazzled is your nature.  You are upset about the eggs even though it's not his fault that others ate your portion. I think your feelings were hurt and you felt left out/ignored and you took it out on him.  [/quote]

That's the thing.  I was irritated, but only got upset when I first heard cousin's husband, then cousin both talk about me separately.  
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I'm normally put-together, on time, and go with the flow.  I[b] wasn't as put together on this trip due to a series of bad events, including a rough workweek before[/b] heading there, but I would have appreciated at least a "is everything okay" or something, as opposed to folks talking behind my back.  You're right, I did feel left out/ignored, then it compounded when I heard them.  And no, I didn't sleep in, I was up before DH, just got late looking for my things. [/quote]

:(  Perhaps you were more stressed than you thought and believe me, it shows more than we'd like.  So while talking infront of you is not cool they may not have felt like they could approach you.  Is there a chance you were snappy with them?  If so, that could be a reason why they were not willing to talk to you.  [/quote]
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[b]No, just my husband. And he snapped at me as well.[/b] [/quote]

Your story is changing as you tell it.  First by the time you go upstairs your DH has already made eggs and they've ll been eaten, now you were up before him but just took forever to get out of the house because you couldn't find a shirt?  First you were perfectly calm and pleasant to everyone even though -- woe is you -- you had a stubbed toe and had to make your own eggs, now you were in a snappish fight with your husband in front of everyone?

Everyone on the trip and everyone on the thread is getting the same read here -- you were out of line and bitchy and people were tiptoeing around you and pitying your DH.  Apologize and do better in the future.[/quote]

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