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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. Thanks for all the responses. I will be much better off financially than he will... I also worry about that and how he will handle it. It’s not that I need to prepare myself (logistically) to leave because I already did that once - it’s just the thought of doing it a second time is gutting. I don’t WANT to leave either. I want the marriage I signed up for, the person I fell in love with. A part of me thinks that person could come back but I don’t know how realistic that is anymore. [/quote]

OP, sometimes the only choices we have are bad choices and we have to puck the least worst.  I know you want the marriage and person you thought you had, but if your DH isn't willing to go to psychiatrist and follow med or treatment recommendations and see a paychologist for counseling regularly, then really that choice isn't available.

Please got to NAMI for support.  Please take their family to Family class.  Please read Xaviar Amador's "I'm not sick, I don't need help.".  Also read David Karp's "Burden of Sympathy".

We loved ones have to choose from a menu of all difficult options.

You cannstill be supportive as a friend and ex, but right now the best thing you can do for him is draw a hard boundary that he cannot expect you to stay if he is not doing everything to help himself.  Meds and therapy are nothing to be ashamed of ; getting better isn't about gutting it out or white knuckling it.   he must seek help.  Would you ask a diabetic to work harder?  Would you ask a cardiac patient to forgo meds?  Depression and anxiety are no different.  [/quote]

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