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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]These people telling you this is a 'in sickness and in health' situation are flat out wrong. [/b][u] I've been married 20 years and have 3 kids.  My DH also suffers from depression and I've posted on DCUM at length about our struggles.  We're about 8 years out from the point where our marriage 'broke' because of my DH's continued refusal to seek attention for his depression. In the past, he'd struggled with depression but since he was willing to seek treatment, I was right with him.  This time was different.  While he acknowledged the medication he took was no longer effective, he refused all my efforts to help him.  I ended up developing depression myself and had to take an SSRI (my only regret was waiting so long to take it).

Living with my DH was endangering my own my mental health and, even more critically, the mental health of our kids.  These people who are telling you to stick it out have no understanding of the impact of untreated depression on those living in the household.  After I initiated separation, my DH began seeking treatment but by that time our marriage had broken.  Why we ended up NOT divorcing is a long story and I would characterize our marriage as 'happy' but it's not what it used to be and I absolutely cannot endure another another long period of untreated depression.

OP, you need to take steps to preserve your own mental health.  If you don't already, find a counselor and see her individually.  Exercise, eat well and start developing an exit plan.  [b]Do NOT have kids. [/b][/u] [/quote]

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ALLLLLLLof THIS.^^^^^^
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