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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a vacation destination/costal town that is very near and dear to my heart. I visited often as a child and I have great memories of my summers there. It hasn’t been in the cards for us to travel there since having our son, and I don’t see it happening soon, unfortunately. But I dream of the day I can show him this place and share my memories with him. But all of this is really no secret to anyone who knows me.

So you can imagine my surprise when DS (5.5) came home yesterday from his grandma’s (my MIL) and announced that his grandma has told him that, maybe over the summer, she and grandpa will take him to this place alone, without us! Just the three of them. And now he’s excited. And I don’t know whether to be mad that none of this was even brought up to us, and we weren’t even consulted. Or sad, because we weren’t asked along (not that we could go at this time, which is something they know.)

I discussed it with my husband, briefly, and said that this is something I can’t budge on. He neither agreed nor disagreed, because he isn’t taking it seriously. And to be honest, it isn’t serious yet, since we haven’t even been asked by them.

But how do I approach this if/when asked without sounding possessive? I sure don’t mind if he spends time with them, but regardless of location, I couldn’t let him travel alone that far (other end of the country) with them. And what’s worse, I feel like they chose that location on purpose. It feels almost spiteful. Thoughts? [/quote]
I think you're reading spite into a situation where there isn't any.  They might well have been motivated by the fact that you love this place, and you are not able to take your son there in the foreseeable future.  You are possessive of this place, perhaps irrationally.  Your kid is not going to feel the same way about this town as you did.

Also, the place is not the same as taking a trip with grandparents.  (FWIW, my kid spent a week with her grandparents on the other side of the country (at their home) when she was four.  There is no reason that a nearly 6-year-old child cannot spend time with grandparents away from home.)  [/quote]

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