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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A few blocks away is too close if you will be living with an affair partner.  People tend to socialize within the neighborhood and bringing an affair partner into the neighborhood where your wife and kids live creates all kinds if drama and dilemmas among neighborhood families about how to schedule social affairs w/ 1 or both of you.  Instead of figuring it out, a lot of people will drop you.  Also very wrong to move into the same neighborhood with an AP if you then try to maintain a facade that she was not AP, forcing everyone to choose to either lie or tell truth with negative consequences.[/quote]

I love how OP said literally nothing about or pointing to an affair but because he’s male everyone is assuming that must be what broke up his marriage. [/quote]

OP here - there is no AP or OW ... [/quote]

I am not PP but at same time I would go a few miles given the choice because you might find someone or start dating etc and you don't want your ex keeping tabs on you if there is no hope for reconciliation. Not to mention what she may doing while you have the kids. I wouldn't want to deal with that mentally being so close.[/quote]

I agree. Closer is better for the kids...until you start having women over to your new home. Then chance encounters become very fraught. I didn't see how old your kids are but this is especially true if there is any chance of them "popping over" on their own now or some time in the future.

If you are really hoping for a reconciliation, it may not matter. But if you are seeing this as the first step to "moving on" then I would live farther away.[/quote]

This doesn't make sense. The parent in the family home may also start to date at some point. Either parent would explain in age appropriate ways why there was another person there. I know two couples who live within a couple blocks. The kids bike back and forth all the time. Both parents dated and eventually remarried. Living close by was a very positive thing for both families. [/quote]

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