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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a great husband, does a lot, cares about me, doesn't slack off. I STILL don't find sex with him interesting any longer. I do it -- very regularly! -- but the biological idea that women get bored and want somebody new more than men do resonates with me.

I'm happy in my marriage -- as a co parenting, co living situation. Do I find my husband attractive, sexy, interesting? No. But this is mostly not his fault. [/quote]

Agreed. You could be my wife. Aside from me being a good partner and father, objectively, I am a "high value" male: ultra fit, top 1% income, lots of friends, other women show interest, etc. So I no longer take it personally that "she" does not find me sexy. It's not her fault, it is just how women are wired. Like you, we still have regular sex, and I graciously accept her "gift" since I still have an active interest in sex.

PP, is there anything your H could do to improve your desire? I would seriously consider issuing her permanent hall pass, it would be worth it if she would bring some of that excitement back into our bedroom.[/quote]

Forgot to add this important detail: our bedroom actually DID become dead at one point. It took me a few tries to clearly articulate the point that I would not stay married/faithful without a regular sex life. She suddenly "found" her libido, and we've been having regular sex for past several years. Her "sex drive" is therefore the desire to keep me as her (faithful) husband. I accept this, realizing that 99% of women would be just like her after a year together.[/quote]

""sex drive" is therefore the desire to keep me" of course it is, it usually is thats why the saying about never let them get comfortable is about. Look around at the most stable "nice" guys you know they  more than likely have the dead bedroom issues ,she knows he isn't leaving , he is boring on that basis alone. [/quote]

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