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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a great husband, does a lot, cares about me, doesn't slack off. I STILL don't find sex with him interesting any longer. I do it -- very regularly! -- but the biological idea that women get bored and want somebody new more than men do resonates with me.

I'm happy in my marriage -- as a co parenting, co living situation. Do I find my husband attractive, sexy, interesting? No. But this is mostly not his fault. [/quote]

Agreed. You could be my wife. Aside from me being a good partner and father, objectively, I am a "high value" male: ultra fit, top 1% income, lots of friends, other women show interest, etc. So I no longer take it personally that "she" does not find me sexy. It's not her fault, it is just how women are wired. Like you, we still have regular sex, and I graciously accept her "gift" since I still have an active interest in sex.

PP, is there anything your H could do to improve your desire? I would seriously consider issuing her permanent hall pass, it would be worth it if she would bring some of that excitement back into our bedroom.[/quote]

Wife here. Not experiencing bed death yet, but we’ve only been together 8 years.  I get turned on when I observe other women interested in DH and flirt with him (I have to witness the threat firsthand).  And when we spend a good amount of time apart, like 4 days or more.  Or if someone is flirting with me, I can take that energy home to him.  Otherwise I need to turn to my own resources to get turned on for him.  Monogamy is hard, no two ways about it![/quote]

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