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[quote=Anonymous]I'm sorry you and your family are going through this.

Honestly, you don't sound upset at all. Your post makes you sound a bit arrogant, cold and detached. Do you feel detached?

Most people crave sex and intimacy. Did you miss it, or were you okay with a more roommate-like situation?

I would be devastated if my husband cheated. I would feel blindsided and confused. I would feel like I lost my best friend. I would probably try to save the marriage, but I'm not sure I could ever trust him again or feel truly loved.

How do you feel? Are you more worried about financials and appearances than about the actual relationship?

Your post also makes it seem like you think he needs to shoulder the burden to save the marriage. That's not how this works. It takes two to sustain a healthy marriage. Regardless of the fact that he cheated, both of you need to step up and work to rebuild your relationship. That doesn't mean he needs to placate you. You need to realize that he likely cheated because your sex life and overall intimacy were gone. He was looking for someone to desire him and make him feel whole. Were you doing that, or had you checked out? Either way it's fine, but if you want to rebuild the marriage then both of you need to communicate expectations and try to please each other. Otherwise, you should come up with a Plan B (open marriage or divorce).

You should reread your original post and see if it's an accurate reflection of not. Good luck. [/quote]

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