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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, even though my family eats the same thing I'm eating, for some (probably genetic) reason, certain foods made my breath bad and no one else's.

I brush (Sonicare), floss, use that rubber tipped tool, and still had a problem.  The tongue scraper proved to be the fixer.  And, does your DH have milk? (like in his coffee?) Milk, or milk+sugar, wow, that just coated my tongue and stayed there.  Tongue scraper.

I'd get him a dental appt and call the dental assistant and tell them what's bothering you and you need the dentist to recommend a mouthwash and check for any other problems.  If he hears it from a dentist, he's more likely to do it. [/quote]

NP. The part about needing to hear this from the dentist--not you, the wife--is an excellent idea. Call or stop by the dentist's office and be frank with the dentist if possible or the hygienist. Ask them to say THEY smell a problem, they are concerned, and they are telling him to do X and Y and want to see him again in a month. Make sure they do not let him know you primed them! (We have had the same dentist and hygienist for decades so I know them well enough that I would be fine walking in and discussing this; I wouldn't tell my dentist "it's killing the sex" but I wouldn't hesitate to say I was worried DH's coworkers could smell it and DH was in denial, etc).

Some people have to hear anything like personal criticism from a third party--they just will not ever hear it, or heed it, coming from a spouse. It's unfortunate, but often true.

Alternatively: Does DH have a friend whom you know well enough to ask to tell DH his breath stinks? Without saying you asked him to say so?

It's sad to have to play those games but DH may just assume you're overly sensitive. Later if want to work on why he can't be grown-up about listening to a simple observation intended to help him.[/quote]

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