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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, cut them off. Maybe when your teen brother is an adult you can be friends with him if he doesn't turn out like your parents. These people have nothing to offer you but more pain. Find friends that can become your family.

Honestly, [b]straight white people will not get what you are going through because most of them have never been marginalized. You can tell by the responses you are getting here. [/b]

Build a diverse group of friends and therapy, therapy therapy![/quote]

Ummm excuse me? I'm 19:29 above who said to move on from her family of origin because she shouldn't stay in a situation where she's disrespected. And that she can choose her family. So I basically said the same thing as you. I'm also straight and white. So that was a pretty rude thing to say. If you find yourself being regularly disrespected then maybe you should consider how much you've been disrespecting other people too, rather than rushing to blame others for being racist or whatever.

FWIW I've also moved on from my family of origin.[/quote]

Stop centering yourself in this. The marker of a straight, white woman.  It is not rude to tell you that.  Straight white women hurt feelings are SO difficult to deal with. Moving from your family of origin does not make you a member of a marginalized population. You will never understand it. You are very lucky.

Many, many Americans ARE racist, by the way.
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NP here: agree with PP - y[b]our hate speech is rude[/b]. Like many people who spew hate speech, you don't recognize that your comments are illogical, and you're not capable of understanding how to stop centering yourself in someone else's experiences.[/quote]

Saying that a straight, white person in America will not understand the experience of a marginalized person is NOT hate speech. FULL STOP.

It is the TRUTH. A straight, white person in America can sympathize with a marginalized person, can be liberal, a social justice warrior etc but they cannot know how it feels to be marginalized in that way. 
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The fact that some of you are jumping on this truth and calling it hate speech is absolutely absurd and still proves my point that you are just centering yourselves in something that is not about you[/b]. [/quote]

I agree 100%[/quote]

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