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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You shouldn’t be commenting on your female coworkers haircut either, actually. That’s the whole point. [/quote]
[b]Really? You never compliment another person who you work with[/b]? [/quote]
NP here, and female.  I have been thinking about this lately because obviously this stuff is all over the news and coming up everywhere.  But I can honestly say that I have never felt constrained by not telling a coworker "you look nice/attractive/fit" or whatever.  I compliment my coworkers all the time on their work performance, thank them for how they handle things in my absence, etc.  I have commented to male coworkers "I see you got new glasses" and left it at that.  This has not made me feel like I am not developing rapport with them, and I think it's odd that some men seem to feel like they have to comment on appearance.[/quote]
I can't imagine telling a co-worker "you look fit" - that seems too body-related.  I absolutely will comment to a male co-worker if I think he's lost weight; but I'd never comment at all on weight to a female co-worker.  If a female (or male) co-worker shows up with a new haircut ...

[img]https://i.ytimg.com/vi/-9KFnz9qn7A/hqdefault.jpg[/img]

... then I'm absolutely going to compliment the new look (even if it's a bad haircut).

I don't see a problem with any of that.  Do you?[/quote]

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