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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thank you for all the input.  It's true that part of what makes me uncomfortable is the impact of this on my own eating behaviors and outlook.  I know for myself that a part of what triggered by eating disorder was witnessing a roommate who was bulimic, even though I judged her eating habits to be dangerous and unhealthy.  For me, any extreme focus on food runs the risk of causing me to obsess about it.  I have found a way to not think about food all the time in my life now, but when I had an eating disorder, it seemed impossible to ever be able to not be thinking about food all the time.  This seems like a trigger to cause me to think more about food and makes me a little nervous as a result.

But I'm honestly not trying to control his eating and am happy for him to eat how he wants.  My concern is more that this is a really drastic change in how he typically eats and how he verbalizes his interest in eating, and frankly, it sounds to me like what I experienced with an eating disorder.  I don't think he actually has an eating disorder, but I do think his approach to food is disordered.  I also think most Americans have a pretty disordered view of food and eating.  If his sudden approach to food was "more veggies! I'm going to eat a salad for lunch every day," I would be completely on board because I feel like the goal of it is health.  But this just doesn't feel the same to me.

I also worry about the message this is sending to my kids.  It's pretty obvious when Dad suddenly isn't eating lunch anymore.  He's typically a person who really loves food and enjoys food as a hobby -- eating out, talking about different cuisines, etc.

But I agree that I probably can't do much productive at the moment, so I'll let it play out.  Based on his personality, whether this is healthy or not (and I strongly think it's NOT), I don't foresee it having any long-term traction.  [b]And the PP who said maybe this is healthy because once he loses 20-40 pounds in a few weeks, he'll stop is completely off base.  You don't put on that kind of weight in a few weeks, and you shouldn't be taking it off that fast either.  A moderate approach is better to losing weight.[/quote][/b]

Are you referring to this comment, OP?

I agree. And he may not need to do it longer than four weeks. Say he loses 10-20 pounds in four weeks. After that he can start eating more normally, but continue cutting to lose at a slower pace. Some people need to see an initial major loss to stay motivated.[/quote]

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