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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will trade any of you with nap issues/ mid day thanksgiving. .

Thanksgiving dinner is at my inlaws and I was just told dinner would be at 7 pm. It is just my in laws and childless SIL.  My son (2) will not go down for the night at their house- 1 hour away. I suggested we slide dinner to 6 ( we will be there all day helping), and she said she says no, she prefers to eat at 7.. which means 7:30/8 at her house. There is no reason why we can't eat earlier. .no one is working, we help with food prep.. they just prefer to eat later. I grew up eating thanksgiving dinner at 3pm and am so confused!

I told her our family will be leaving at 8 pm (I will be flexible and stay a little later but need to give her a cutoff time- judging from last years 10pm departure!)... My Husband will follow up and supports me.. but come on. Give a little. If there were other guests involved I would stand down but not for a dinner with immediate family. [/quote]

Op, what is their usual bedtime?
I’d say they need to eat at least an hour before that time.

Staying until 8 is not because of the meal, but because you want to spend a little more time. And I think that’s fine.

I’d tell her ‘thanks for inviting us. My kids need to eat no later than X [1 hour before usual bedtime]. Can we serve them something at that time, while the adults eat at your scheduled time?” If the answer is no. “Ok. Well thank you, we really would love to come, but the kids just can’t eat that late.”

It only takes so many hours to prep. If she can’t move it back, or have some part of the meal ready for kids...it means she has chosen a movable schedulenover their needs.[/quote]

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