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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. I should step up because they don't like to call or visit us? I'm already struggling here. I don't want to add to my plate. [/quote]

But yet you want their help.  So do what you have to do to get it.  You can't have it both ways:  you can't complain that they are out of touch if you don't keep them in touch.  And you can't complain they don't help when they don't know that you need the help.  They are not omniscient and it doesn't sound like the Wizard is being of much assistance so start the communication yourself so you can stop complaining that they aren't helping you.[/quote]

They know we need help because they're aware of my parents coming to help. I know no one owes me anything. I'm just annoyed they don't help at all but still want us to visit them. They never call. It's so one sided. [/quote]

If you need their help then ask for it.  Otherwise, stop with the BMC.  You're seeming to relish playing the martyr.  Get over yourself because while you're engaging in all this drama I'm wondering who is providing the emotional and physical support for your kids.  You're the adult by age at least so you need to start acting like it.  If you want your in-laws to help then you need to open up the communication circle and invite them in so that they can help.  It's your choice, OP.[/quote]

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