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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was 38 and made peace with never getting married or having kids. But at that age I wasn’t going to waste my time on someone who wasn’t seriously moving towards marriage. But by making peace with it, it meant if I never met a guy who wanted something serious, I was happy walking away. I think it made me less desperate. “This is what I want and if you don’t, cool, I’m moving on”.

Told him very early on, like first couple of conversations. If that scared him off, so be it. (Although, I made it clear I wasn’t sure if I wanted to marry him. I didn’t know him well enough. I just wanted to marry at some point. But was cool if I never did. )

And I was the most real I’ve ever been in a relationship. I was dealing with a long term illness and didn’t have the energy to be ‘ON’ all the time.

We were married 22 months later when I was 40. [/quote]

OP here, thank you, I love this!

I've had moments where I'm at peace with being single the rest of my life. Then I meet someone, spend lots of time together and grow to like them, but get bummed when it doesn't work out. Then I find it tougher to get back to that place of peace I was in before I met them, and was content with my fabulous singlehood.

I'm curious, how did you hand the emotional letdown of the relationships or dating that didn't pan out, before you met your husband? Did you stay emotionally unavailable?[/quote]

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