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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I applaud your lifestyle choices.  However, could this be perhaps motivated by concern over your old age?  As next of kin, caring for you will fall to them and their children if you are not prepared.  I know you've inherited some money, but is it really going to be enough?  What is the plan for you as a single, childless person to have care as you age?  My sister is like you (without the inheritance) and I do sometimes wonder.[/quote]

This is exactly what I was thinking.  Their attitude could be coming from a place of concern over your future, and maybe even what you might expect or ask of them down the road. Do you have enough money to support yourself in retirement, or do they worry that you will come asking them for money or support when your inheritance runs out in the years to come?  Do they worry that you will be lonely without a partner in your future?  I'm not saying that their prying questions or comments are fair or appropriate, I only point this out so that perhaps you can rethink how they are viewing this situation and tailor your responses accordingly.  [/quote]

This is my guess too. My husband's family is going through a very stressful time at the moment because the brother who didn't marry/have kids and who worked a part time job now needs lots of care. He also got an inheritance from his parents, but it wasn't nearly enough to fund his whole retirement. He got cancer and is recovering, but doesn't have any money to pay for home health care and there are big gaps in what Medicaid covers and what he needs. So he is now relying on nephews and nieces who are trying to raise their own kids and send them to college etc. I barely know him but definitely resent how he got to take it easy in his 30s and beyond while now DH and I have to pitch in to fund  his care. [/quote]

Why do you “have to” fund his care?[/quote]

This! Having children isn't a guarantee of anything cos even if the uncle did have kids, they could be deadbeats and not give a damn. So many old pple in nursing homes are parents so that tells you something. [/quote]

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