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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I applaud your lifestyle choices.  However, could this be perhaps motivated by concern over your old age?  As next of kin, caring for you will fall to them and their children if you are not prepared.  I know you've inherited some money, but is it really going to be enough?  [b]What is the plan for you as a single, childless person to have care as you age?  My sister is like you (without the inheritance) and I do sometimes wonder.[/quote][/b]

Lol.[/quote]

NP here. Why is this funny?

After seeing what's involved in taking care of two aging family members, I also wonder about the futures of single, childless friends.[/quote]

Maybe you didn't hear but we don't all live in a part of the world where daughters are expected to give up their own lives to care for aging parents.

Everyone needs to figure out their longterm plans, whether they have children or not. Your children are not a retirement plan.[/quote]

I don't think this is just about having children.  OP says she is working part time and implied she is not overly concerned about making money. Of course we don't know her situation, maybe she inherited millions, or maybe she lives very frugally and is socking away retirement money. But it is also possible that her free spirit means she just doesn't think that hard about the future. We also have a single, childless uncle like that in my family, and we absolutely worry about who will pay for him and take care of him as he ages. [/quote]

And I have a sister like that as well.  She's also a borderline hoarder.  I sincerely think her plan B is living in my basement in retirement, but no way in heck would I ever allow that.   She's avoided full-time work for literally years, and I don't see how she'll manage retirement if she doesn't hustle and earn some money soon.   She's also been living off an inheritance, but it's not an infinite amount of money and it's not enough to secure her future.  [/quote]

And here we have the proof that you can't count on family to care for you - so why exactly do you think that having kids or not is some guarantee? You think your kids aren't going to be on some message board talking about their mom and dad who spent too much on their home in the DC inner suburbs and now can't afford to pay for whatever, but no way they can come move in with us?

OP gave no indication that she is in any kind of financial trouble. She indicated that the only issue here is that her siblings want her to be more achievement oriented.[/quote]

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