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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Thanks everyone. This is my first time posting on the relationship forum. I'm amazed by all the responses!

It's true that DH is not uniquely qualified to handle this problem. I just wanted him to. I shouldn't have even asked him to and instead just done it myself.

Guest bedroom is on another floor, far from us. I can't move DD there.

I just wanted DH to handle this because I'm overwhelmed doing everything for our life in addition to my demanding job.
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My therapist gave me this advice- if you were to divorce, you'd end up doing all of this stuff on your own anyway, without the added benefit of a second income. The only real "perk" of divorce is to date/sleep with other men, which I'm not interested in doing. So for now it's to my advantage to stay married.

This has helped me let go of a lot of the resentment and stress I have. I just do exactly what I would have done if I was divorced and on my own. I've stopped resenting my DH and it gives me a taste of what life as a single parent is actually like.

Also- it is way, way less energy to just do these things on your own. Stressing over it, nagging, and getting upset take more effort and energy than just googling what to do and ordering materials online. Is it "fair"? No. But it makes for a happier life. [/quote]

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