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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd be most worried that he sees kids as his chance to relive his childhood.  Any actual kids won't cooperate with that fantasy.[/quote]

Oh come on!!!! You are grasping and you know it.

That is OP's interpretation of what he wants.  And every single one of us wanted our kids to have better childhoods than we had.  I see absolutely nothing wrong with what this guys is saying.

When a woman on DCUM tries to defend her SAH status all of you chime in to support her, but a guy can't voice his preference for this.[/quote]

Of course he can and should voice his preferences. But he doesn't seem like he's open to negotiation. If it's a dealbreaker for him, then the relationship with OP is over.[/quote]

Yes.  But that still doesn't address his explanation, which is terrible - he had a bad childhood and having a SAHW will somehow fix that?  I don't know his life, but I do that it wasn't the only/main problem if it was that bad.

And I don't want my kids to have a "better" childhood than me.  My parents were/are awesome, so I'd be thrilled if my kids get the same as me.  People trying to deal with the past through the own kids never works out.  Their parents were too strict, so they wind up being too lenient, or the opposite.  Deal with your past on your own time, and then parent your kids.  The linkage is, or should be, concerning. [/quote]

Then you are one of very few lucky ones.  The rest of us who did not have such peachy childhoods, do expect, work for and make better for our kids.  It really is okay.[/quote]

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