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[quote=Anonymous]I would talk it through more before doing anything...but your picture of him as fairly old-fashioned in other ways suggests that this could be fairly central to his view of his ideal family etc. If he adores you, he might be willing to compromise on it...but it's a fairly big thing to compromise on given that you don't seem to have any inclination toward SAH at all.

For some perspective, my MIL was a SAHM when DH was in elementary school. He commented, sort of early on, that he thought it was really nice to have a parent SAH with little kids.  I joked something about his staying him if we had kids, and he didn't balk. He was also very careful to say "one parent" instead of wanting to marry a future SAHM. At some point the conversations around building a life together and having kids got more serious...and he offered before I even mentioned it that my staying home was a non-starter, because he didn't think I would ever be happy as a SAHM.

My point is that my initial advice was not because I think people can't have preferences or ideas about SAHPs. It's just that you are not presenting him as someone who is likely to be flexible on his ideas.[/quote]

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