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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who are you fooling? Joining a country club for the kid's tennis lessons and socializing... Are you upset that your wife is not helping you with the social ladder climb?[/quote]

This is the jist I’m getting too.

Now, I’m not a mom, but I am an introvert and my job exhausts me so I can relate to your wife. I’m not a big shopper but running is my “solo” activity and I do it 6 days a week. I don’t like hanging out with other people just for the sake of hanging out and making connections.  I’m not a user, I don’t feel the need to impress people or hang out with a swanky crowd. When I am not working, my preference is to spend time at home and recharge and relax. I have a cozy, wonderful home and I like to make good use out of it! This doesn’t mean I’m depressed by any means.

Now, the differences here are that if your wife is a SAHM then she’s probably not exhausted because at work I deal with people and their emotions and needs all day long and I just want some damn alone time at the end of the day. It doesn’t seem she has that problem especially if your daughter goes to day care 6 hours a day (like another poster said, I don’t get that. What exactly is the point of being a SAHM then?). Also shopping is a popular pastime but if it’s to the point where it’s stretching your budget thin or making the house look like something out of Hoarders, it’s a problem.

I think you need to have an honest, non-judgmental, caring conversation with your wife. She won’t respond well if you make her feel like she’s being attacked or forced to do something she doesn’t want to. I have nothing against her not wanting to be social at all, but I do wonder why she shops so much if she never goes anywhere, or why she can’t get at least a part time job if she’s not actually watching your child most of the day. [/quote]

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