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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From my reading of your OP, it looks like your neighbor just had newborn twins and is asking if you can take her older children to the bus stop with yours, correct?

As a dad of twins, I'll tell you that for us, the first 8.5 months was the hardest.  That's when our twins slept more than 2-3 hours for the first time.  This initial period was a haze of low sleep.  If you can hold out until their twins STTN, then you will be doing them a very big favor.  In our case, we only had twins, and did not have other children to care for, but I can understand and sympathize with both sides in this issue.  The one complication is that since our twins were premies and NICU babies, we were advised not to take them out of the house for the first 6 weeks.  That may have been what the new mom was originally targeting when she said "just a few weeks".  However, the reality is that even after that point, it's hard to get yourself into a new routine when you are just trying to keep up with the every 3 hours schedule of sleep, feed, diaper, play.  Trying to add anything in at that point seems difficult, but we've all had to make adjustments.

That said, parents of multiples generally do understand the imposition such favors and requests put on others.  And are understanding and appreciative of your consideration.  If you find that the burden is too much, then let the other mother know that while you are willing to take her kids to the bus stop occasionally, it's becoming difficult to do this on a daily basis and that she needs to work on coming up with an alternative.  Then let her come up with an alternative plan.[/quote]

HOLD OUT TILL TWINS STTN????
You must be insane. Why? She is not family, not compensated, she is an innocent bystander. Who gives a rat's tail what months are the hardest for you? YOU and your SPOUSE chose to have this number of children.  DEAL.  Hire labor ask a fam member to pitch in, quit your job.  Neighbors are not free labor that you should count on. It's not their job or problem how your children get to the bus stop. [/quote]

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