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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to diagnose that OP does not want to get pregnant at all and is feeling immense pressure from DH.
 
OP, someone asked you questions about your DH.  Is he an involved guy?  Will he be the default parent?  (Though truth be told you have no way to know for sure until you see him in action.)  Do you have plenty of money?

With the way you are feeling, the above questions are critical and it's difficult to give advice without it.

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Op here. I definitely want kids. I've always wanted to be a mother. I answered in another post that my DH is involved, but works 50 hours a week. We can afford outside care, but I worry about leaving a young baby with a babysitter. I start my program fall 2018, so I will have a very young baby if I get pregnant now. My other thought was to get pregnant at 34 while in my second year, and deliver baby around graduation time. That will leave me with 1-2 years to build up my new career before trying for a second baby.

I am sorry if I come across as a know it all. I asked because I was hoping to get first hand accounts of personal situations where you guys had similar situations, and how it worked out. That's really my main question. If having a child while working and going to school is reasonable? I know the risks after 35, and was a little annoyed by the snarky " you should know because you're a nurse" comments. I am aware of the risks, but that's not my question. My question, to moms who have had children, is will it be easier to wait until after school to start a family. I am feeling pressured by my DH and family to have a baby now.   [/quote]

I'm tempted to say start now.  I don't know if the CRNA has the same hours as a nurse but I have many friends who are mothers who love being nurses because the hours can be very flexible.  I don't know if I would want to be ramping up into a new career at the same time I was having babies.  Would it be a disaster to postpone your advanced degree?  How much would it matter if you didn't start that until age 40?  In the end, you would still get both (career and family) and you might enjoy the time when the kids are younger because you wouldn't have that additional stress.[/quote]

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