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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You email the parent to ask if you can bring something.

But no, I really don't want to turn a basement party with 6 girls into 5-6 helicopters coming in to talk and ruin my weekend night of Netflixing and wine with my husband [/quote]

Most parents what to know what is going on in a home and if their kids are safe.  No reason not to reach out before the party or at drop off.  Your netflix and getting drunk can wait till all the kids arrive.  If I knew you were too busy to check in on the kids every once in a while as getting drunk was your priority I would not want my kid over there.[/quote]

Are you serious PP? You would walk up to the door of a young teen party and expect to come in and talk to the host parents?  That is not helicoptering, that is psychotic coddling. Your child would be mortified. The person said to reach out prior to party. No need to invite yourself, or ask how often they will check, or make sure the mom isn't having a glass of wine and equating that with a drunk. Just wow! [/quote]

Not the PP, but I agree. if I haven’t met you and my teen will be under your care for the next 4-5  hours I want to put a face with a name.  Your opinion about my decision to do so is irrelevant. I don’t base my parenting decisions on scoring cool points with my teen or other parents.[/quote]

Sadly your child is missing out. Parents don't want high maintenance helicopters around so she isn't on many invite lists. You need to cut the umbilical cord. Knowing everyone of your child's friends parents is not normal. [/quote]
Nope but nice try. If only you knew what parents are saying about YOU![/quote]

DP poster here.  Last PP, you need to reel it in.  I am not saying that you shouldn't know what YOUR child is doing and what YOUR rules are.  But you come across as a know it all know nothing who not only helicopters, but tries to tell other parents how to run their house.  Think about it:  does that sound like a realistic expectation to you?  That other parents run their houses the same as you?  Just because someone doesn't hold their teens hand crossing the street (for example) doesn't mean they aren't parenting - they (listen carefully) have their own way of doing things in THEIR house.  The worst behaved teens I knew when I was a teen, and the worst behaved teens I know now that I have teens - are the overbearing parents who think they know best for everyone.  It is illogical.  To top it off, those are the parents who are always looking for drama, calling up other parents, gossiping about things they know nothing about, accusing innocent people, and other desperate tactics to try to take focus away from their own problematic teen.  Parents aren't stupid, they see through your type of parenting.  You don't come across as a good parent, you come across as a menace to the community. Watch yourself before you get yourself into some serious trouble in the community.  Your family is not perfect, and you are just drawing attention to that fact.

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You are unhinged. Do me a favor, just keep referring to parents you haven’t met as helicopter parents for wanting a brief introduction, you can even add it to the invitation! I have no interest in staying or carrying on a dull conversation with you. How you parent your teen is your business, until it affects mine.[/quote]

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