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REPORT to the principal now, and for all future incidents report immediately.

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No. Do not. Zero tolerance I say a disaster.

My kid got punched once.  He understood that the punch was just frustration and if he said anything all the boys involved at the scene would be in trouble and the perp likely to be suspended. My kid wisely realized that nothing good would come of opening himself mouth. P?S. He got an apology within 48 hours, unasked.
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This isn’t about zero tolerance. This is about a teenager learning that it’s not okay to hold a girl against a wall. Why take the chance that he might not learn this behavior is unacceptable? Why take the chance that he’ll know not to do it again in the future? Maybe he’s done this before and there’s a pattern of behavior? 
It needs to be reported. [/quote]
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1. He learned it. His nose broke.[/b]

2. Telling the principal will make this girl's own life harder at school.  That was the calculus my son understood.  She doesn't have to do that to herself if she doesn't want to.

3. You put more faith than I in the school adults to solve anything.  That's why zero tolerance doesn't work.  None of the adults are held accountable for finding the source of the trouble.

She solved it. Her way, at little cost to her own record.  Good for her.[/quote]

Not sure he learned his lesson.  Now, if he apologized, I might feel different.  
Here's my concern about not reporting or somehow making a record, even by notifying the boy's parents: suppose this boy retaliates in some way.  Then what?
Maybe the boy learned and that will be that--we can only hope so.

OP, if you choose not to report to parents or school,  you MUST keep a written record of anything else untoward that happens and keep in mind that it likely won't stop until other steps are taken.
And of course this whole episode is yet another sad example of why girls and women don't report abuse.  I'm not blaming OP or her daughter, but it sure is sad.
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