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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you  were pushing too far.  Taking away the drone or sending the friend home or sending yours inside - each ONE of those would have been enough.  I like to let my kid vent, because my parents never allowed me to express anger in any way.  [b]Couldn't yell, couldn't talk back (even when they were wrong), couldn't stamp my feet going up to my room, couldn't slam my door closed. [/b]

So I stop the immediate behavior that's a problem, she vents, I let her, and when we've all calmed down, THEN we talk.  But I wait for HER to calm down too.  [/quote]  Umm, NO to any of these. Good for your parents.   It's OK to be angry and express anger but what you are not going to do is disrespect me while doing it.  My kid can go in their room and scream into their pillow, put on headphones and listen to music, punch a punching bag, go outside and run around the block, etc.  - these are acceptable ways to express anger.  Not by stomping off, slamming doors and yelling/talking back to me.  Nope, you're allowing your kid to disrespect you and not teaching him/her better techniques to deal with anger.[/quote]

We'll have to agree to disagree.  I was told to punch my pillow, and I couldn't roll my eyes hard enough at that.  If my parents were standing over me, physically intimidating me, screaming at me about something my brother did, damn straight I wanted to yell back.  Because they sure as shit weren't listening if I calmly and quietly said "Mark did that; not me."

My DD is an absurdly reasonable 14 yr old.  So damn straight I am going to let it go if she slams her bedroom door shut once a month, or something. [/quote]

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