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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you feel you could trust your GC early on in the relationship? Or did it take a long time before you felt comfortable with the idea that she would be carrying your child for 9 months?

Is there anything you wish you had done differently? Was there ever any awkwardness about finances?[/quote]

I felt like I could trust her, but the relationship was awkward at times. I did try to spend a lot of time with her initially before the transfer so I could *read* her more, and that helped develop the trust. At first, I was hesitant to meet her family but now I am happy that I did. They each played a part in her pregnancy and I am so grateful to all of them.

It's just hard when you are entrusting your child in someone else's hands, and you are an A type personality. I was particularly curious about her eating habits. She really didn't have the money to eat healthy and I wanted to make sure that she was able to. I ended up sending boxes of food to her family - fruits, meats, etc. I also sent her a cake on her birthday. ;)

I wish I hadn't waited as long as I did before going through the process. I had to work through my own issues before moving to this stage. I am with SG and they were encouraging, checking in with me periodically to see how I was doing. I appreciated that. It would have been easy to walk away from the entire process. In fact, that was probably the easier road to take. I'm happy that I plodded ahead.

No awkwardness with the finances - except with DH and I. :) It's a lot to spend. Our surrogate earns an hourly wage so to her this was an incredible windfall. Her dream is to have one of her children attend college. None of her friends or family attended. I tried to always be mindful of the financial differences between us.[/quote]

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