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[quote=Anonymous]Introverted Male married to Introverted Female and raised by Introverts

1.  Introverts don't fit into a neat little box (neither do extroverts)  there are many other factors like communication styles and other aspects of personality S vs N T vs F and P vs J.  If you haven't yet might be a good idea to do the full Myers Briggs to help with things as well.

1) When did you realize that you were an introvert? How does being an introvert affect your relationships?  Middle schoolish, being social felt superficial and time consuming, hated going to happy hours/bars to try and meet people/date, online dating worked really well for me without it I probably wouldn't have gotten dating experience and eventually gotten married.  I like going deeper pretty quickly which didn't work well when first meeting people but worked better for online dating/where both people wanted to see if things would work out/get serious pretty quickly. 
2) For those introverts that are married to extroverts, how have you found a good way to work through arguments? Do you ask for time to process before engaging in conversation? Do your spouses tire you out with conversation?  As others have said this is more of a communication/overall personality thing, I don't like being caught by surprise (which might be stronger for introverts but I don' think anybody likes this)  Females tend to connect multiple topics together and males tend to keep things separate.  Another male/female thing I know to ask if this is more of a venting session or a problem solving session.  Yes I do find that I tire out in conversation but again that is usually because as a male I like to focus on one issue at a time and my spouse/females tend to group multiple things together at once   
3) If you were a son or daughter of extroverted parents, what is the best way your parents connected with you? When did you feel understood the most? When did you feel loved the most? N/A but I think all kids just want to be heard.  I would go days without really speaking to my parents but I always knew they would be there when I wanted to talk about something.  Its ok to ask a question or two a day but don't always expect a conversation to come out of it

1) Is there anything else besides "me time" that can recharge you?  It's not just me-time it can be one on one or small group people, introverts generally don't like situations where there are multiple conversations at once in large groups.  I do small groups with my church and for me around 10 people is the max.  Anymore than that and it begins to get overwhelming, at the same time I can have a good time at a happy hour by just foucisng on one person or a small group for a while but most people go to happy hours to meet a bunch of people not just focus on a handful for larger periods of time.   
2) When do you feel like you are most understood by your spouse or your parent? When I can get quality time with them (thats a love language thing) but from the introvert perspective its when I can go deep with someone and have a meaningful conversation   [/quote]

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