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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to throw out one other thought: is she okay in terms of her health?  And are you sure?

I went through a period where I really struggled with everything and was never happy, and it turns out I thyroid/fatigue issues that I was ignoring.

Also even mild depression can make everything hard.

There could be something else going on to explain her ennui. [/quote]

I was going to say, as well - this sounds like depression, or it sounds like something that manifests as depression. I say this as someone who has always struggled to hold down a full time job, or take on a full load of adult responsibilities, and am hearing that in your description of your wife's behavior and feelings.

Anyway, you sound like a good person - she sounds like she is struggling.[/quote]

OP here. Yes, my wife has been treated for depression. She's in therapy weekly. We don't do couples counseling because beyond the proposed change, I'm fine with how things are. I would view myself as content I've made a peace with my choices. In a way, I don't know if my wife has yet. There's always greener grass when she talks about things over the years irrespective of what side of the yard she was sitting on. [/quote]

I'm sure she is talking about those things because she is hoping that by making this change or that one, she will start feeling better. It's probably hard for her, too, knowing that she's placed so many of the responsibilities of family life on you while she is (I am going to assume) just trying to stay afloat. I don't know that there is a solution to this; just, acceptance that she will probably try in various ways to feel better and it might or might not work.

Does it help if you say to her: Hon, you seem to be going through a rough spell. Let's not upend our lives, let's try to make smaller changes here and there and see if we can get through it?[/quote]

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