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[quote=Anonymous]OP, is it possible that the tides will turn in your favor over time?

My DH is about 10 years older than me. Between the for-profit/non-profit salary divide and the age/sex salary divide, he was earning a lot more than was I for 15 of the last 20 years. The kids came along, I did consulting and the stuff I swore I'd never do since it was so inequitable, unjust, reinforcing gender stereotypes, etc etc etc. (And yes, I was green with envy that he got the "luxury" of spending the day working with adults while I was stuck with a mewling, needy kid. Meanwhile, he envied that I was able to spend time with our baby.)

Fast forward to where we are now. He is so over work and dying to spend more time with the kids. I still love what I do and my salary keeps going up and up and up, as do my opportunities and potential. Far more so than his -- he is pretty much stuck where he is. So we're planning on transitioning some things soon so that I'm the primary breadwinner and he's able to scale back a bit and start enjoying life more.

Is there the potential for this situation to change so that you can feel professionally fulfilled while your DH is able to enjoy more family time?

Is sucks to have to feel like you are sacrificing a part of your intellect to deal with kids, diapers, vomit, sticky fingers clawing at you, etc. This, too, shall pass. And then you can move into what stimulates you intellectually and professionally.

Good luck.

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