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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know how you feel but I'm OK with it. Both my DH and I got our MBA's and started with the same company in similar jobs making the same money. After we had our second child I decided to set up my own consulting business to give me a little more flexibility. The business did very well financially and my home/work balance was great but I was somewhat envious of my DH climbing the ranks. When our kids reached middle school and we relocated for the third time in five years I decided to semi-retire to be closer to them during their very critical years. I gave up my consulting business despite it being successful and frankly, I was pretty well known in my industry. I took a job in our town running a non-profit for little pay but it was very rewarding and I was around for my kids. My DH's career was very successful and he ran a couple of well known companies. His profile in his industry was high and I often wondered what would have happened with my career if I hadn't taken somewhat of a mommy track. I was definitely jealous but at the same time my kids were developing into outstanding young adults, my DH and I had a very loving relationship and our life was hard to beat. We definitely made relocation decisions to benefit his career at the expense of mine but I was always very supportive because the jobs were great and the locations were very nice. My DH was always very supportive of what I wanted to do but his career was clearly #1. Once we became empty nesters I retired rom the non-profit, took up a hobby and have turned it into a very nice business that perfectly fits our now retired lifestyle. So while I do wonder what I might have achieved in the corporate world I readily admit that I have a great life. I know my DH and my now married kids very proud of what I have done in all parts of my life so I'm very content. [/quote]

PP, do you mean that his career was #1 to him? As in, he was very comfortable with you taking the backseat and being the default parent?

You are so wrong! At one point he quit his big corporate job and actually came to work with me in my consulting business for three years. We were very successful and our work/life balance was really good. But I knew that running a business was in his DNA and I actually introduced him to a private equity firm that ended up launching him back into the corporate world and great success. It required us to relocate a couple of times but I saw it as an adventure so I really encouraged him to do it. Sure, my career took a back seat but doing what I did really worked for me (read above) and for our family. 
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