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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]During an “argument” between DH and I today, I brought up how he interacts with our almost 2 yo DS.[/b] We weren’t raising our voices, but the conversation was still tense.

Basically, anytime I leave them alone together DH turns the TV on to kids shows while he plays on his phone. I told him that I wanted him to interact with DC and do more with him. I don’t care what they do (go outside, play in the nursery, go to a park for 20 minutes) but it would be nice to see them do something other than watch the TV.

He already doesn’t see DS that much. During the work week it’s only a half hour in the morning and evenings. On the weekends I take a few hours to catch up on work at the library. DH likes this arrangement, it’s a good opportunity for him to send time with DS.

It was surprising when DH became defensive about the screen time. Had an objection to every activity I brought up. Most of them surrounding how difficult it is to interact with a toddler, so what’s the point. He feels justified in his current parenting pattern and furthermore feels I am trying to control their relationship.

I’m flabbergasted. To me, it is obvious that children should have more interaction from their parents than this. And DH has always been a good man, so his reaction really surprised me. I was expecting him to acknowledge the excessive TV time and offer to do something with him in the near future.

I need some perspective. [/quote]

So you were having a discusssion about an unrelated matter. You were upset that you weren't going to win the debat and decided to attack your DH and tell him he was a terrible parent so you could feel better.

[b]Here's your perspective , if you don't learn to communicate better and  you  will be seeing your toddler 50% of the time and have zero say over what happens during that time.[/b]
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Ah, another for The List.

"Better shut up and let him do whatever he wants if you ever want to see your kid again. Uh, I mean, if you don't want to split custody."
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Aw so cute! You want so badly to be the witty DCUMer that everyone likes. Too bad you're a dumbas with no comprehension.[/quote]

Yeah, I'm the "dumbas" PP and why would anyone try to be the DCUMer that everyone likes? It's a totally anon forum with tons of trolls and sock puppets and impossible to gain any sort of following without a username. Talk about "no comprehension."

I'm blowing off steam re: the endless stream of ready-made excuses for men, and the dire warnings for women, should they complain in literally any way. The OP doesn't sound great, but any OP who simply says, "I mentioned to my DH that I'm a bit concerned about the fact that he..." gets reamed for being horrible nag and a killjoy. It's not about tone-- no tone is ever nice enough for the poor, poor fragile men who can't be blamed for the fact that children are inherently tedious and burdensome to people with Y chromosomes. Science.[/quote]

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