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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mom was a pediatrician. She never took me to the gynecologist or talked to me about my period. She put some pamphlets on my bed and later said "You didn't have any questions, did you?" I didn't tell her when my period started but I took her tampons. She left me a note in the drawer that said "Buy your own, cheapskate."

I did see another doctor for check ups and I don't recall him asking me anything about my periods or doing any kind of exam. I did finally get myself to Planned Parenthood when I started having sex at 15, but they focused on the sex part. I had one physician there express disappointment in me because she worked with my dad (he was also a doctor). A few years later when I had no boyfriend and I went off the pill it never occurred to me that a gynecologist might be able to help me with my overwhelmingly heavy periods and cramping. I did work up the courage to mention it to my mom and of course she had no advice. I saw a doctor for a physical and she told me it was "common to be uncomfortable" when you had your period, nevermind that I was often bed bound. I think I finally started going regularly in grad school at 26 when the physician assistant I saw referred me to an actual gynecologist.

My mom, the pediatrician, did nothing to teach me about my period or connect me with anyone who could. It makes me sad to learn that other parents are like this, too. I thought my mom was just a b*tch.[/quote]

This made me teary.  Your mom WAS a bitch. I'm sorry; I want to give you a hug and a talk about your body.

A child should not have to buy their own tampons.  Your mom really shut down conversation. My DD is 14 and a half.  I've given her talks a couple/few times a year about her body, about relationships, about health, etc.  They've changed as she's gotten older.  I will take her to a gyn when I think she's about to get physical with a boy or right before she goes off to college.  For now, she doesn't need one.  She's told me enough about her body that I know everything happening is normal.  She asks enough questions that I know she's comfortable bringing issues to my attention.

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If I was all up in my DD's business like this she would literally murder me and move out. I bought her a book. 
If she wants to go to any kind of doctor I will take her and she knows this.

Sometimes it can be nice to 'graduate' from the pediatrician to a young adult doctor, that can help.

PP - you seem to have serious issues to work through.[/quote]

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