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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I ask because we're trying t figure out the best situation for us. I technically have the better paying job and insurance, but it's only marginally.

I'm not sure how I will handle going back to work I only have 12 weeks, we're expecting twins. I want to breastfeed. I have a pretty demanding job.

We do want someone to be home with the babies though.[/quote]

Most couples have trouble with this.  It sucks and is unfair, probably due to social pressures we can't escape yet.  http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3710922/The-REAL-reason-modern-marriages-end-Women-likely-divorce-stay-home-dads-fail-live-breadwinner-stereotype.html

Could still work for you guys.  I've seen it fail in close friends, I think the guy felt emasculated (he ended up cheating.). Who knows though maybe would have happened either way.  I think guy has to be very secure, and wife has to be somewhat laid back about home life.  Another couple succeeded, but she was in love with her career, and never resented having to be the one who works.

Don't hang any big decisions on breastfeeding.  I've been doing it for 10 months and it's no magical miracle.  Mostly it entails sleep deprivation, discomfort, and some beneficial convenience.  Doing it with twins will almost guarantee supplementing with formula anyway at first, and You would be pumping constantly at work and not getting much done.  Try to be flexible about how things will go.  I hope you are looking at twin support groups.  Frankly staying at home with twins without some extra help would be tough on either parent.  High quality Daycare may turn out to be your salvation (I say this as a stay at home part time Mom of a single, but close to a twin dad/Mom). Ii would also look into part time care and if you or your dh could work part time.  Keep all options on the table (I.e get on wait lists/research nannies.). You don't really know what's right for your family until you are in the thick of it, unfortunately.  Congrats & Good luck.  
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Wow from that article, if DW does les housework time the chance of divorce increases![/quote]

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