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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had typical teenage drama with my parents but nothing extreme. However, in my early 20's I went off the rails - mental health issues, substance abuse, dropping out of college, overall irresponsibility and immaturity coupled with floundering in school/work. My parents must have been in agony, but we all got through it. I finished college (eventually), got into an undistinguished Master's program, did well, and got a job that led to a career. I see in hindsight that they must have been walking a tightrope with me - wanting to intervene but also in absolute terror of pushing me away. I was living close to home, and every week they'd call just to chat, tell me about family news, movies, their work, anything but probing me about getting my act together. They took me to dinner, invited me to things, invited me over for Sunday dinners and to do my laundry. They cut me off financially, but offered moving back in with them as an option as long as I was working or in school. They set boundaries, but never badgered me or offered unsolicited advice. In fact, I only applied to graduate school because my mom said "of course you can do it!" They kept me safe and close by being a safe haven of stability. I already thought I was total garbage - they boosted my self-esteem just by treating me like I was worthy of normal, everyday human interaction. Everything I've accomplished is directly due to their nonjudgmental support. Just be there. Be there every step of the way. Hopefully, like me, they WILL come to appreciate and marvel at your unconditional love. [/quote]

Thank you for posting this! Going through something similar with one of my teens and it is so encouraging to read this.[/quote]

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