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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm going to go against the grain here. When I was a senior in college, I did three weekend visits on college campuses that were required as part of merit scholarship interviews. One, the school put us up in a hotel on campus. The other two, we crashed with kids who had the same scholarship. Sleeping bag on the dorm floor.  I stayed on campus with a friend who was a year older at a 4th college I was considering.

Those visits made me realize that my "dream college" was actually not a great fit, and that the college I had applied to to just to make my parents happy was a wonderful choice for me.

I would not want my own kids to choose a college without spending the night, preferably in a dorm, eating in the dining hall, attending some classes and meeting some kids without a parent tagging along-- when  they are second semester seniors, for places the have acceptances or are likely to be accepted, or when they are interviewing for scholarships.

I don't condone drinking in high school, or wild partying or anything of that sort. My kids don't get to do whatever they want. But, if I can't trust them for 24 hours on a college campus in early spring of their senior year, how am I supposed to trust them to live on that same campus for weeks or months on end less than 6 months later?  If they really can't manage a late Senior year overnight at a college they might attend in a few months, then I haven't done my job in preparing them to leave the nest. [/quote]

This would be an ideal type of visit that I would absolutely condone for my HS senior.

The whole business of a HS kid visiting college friends for the sole intent of partying and hanging out....no.  [/quote]

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