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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Twenty years ago I'd just started dating my husband (much more introverted than I am, started dating end of freshman year)  and was a sophomore in college. We went to a Halloween party. He got tired and wanted to leave. He said that there was no reason my night should have to end if I was having fun. I bumped into a (very cute) man who was in one of my classes and he asked me to dance. We ended up party hopping / dancing at a few parties. He knew I was dating someone else. At any rate, at the end of the evening I said good night to him and want back to the dorms and crawled into bed with my (now) husband. He asked if I'd had fun. I don't expect everyone to be that understanding but appreciated that he was going to be a relationship with trust and not much (any?) jealousy. If you're extroverted, naturally flirtatious, or not ready to act differently this man might not be for you.

Oh, I'd forgotten that on a earlier date to a BBQ with a bunch of his friends whom I didn't know my husband had asked if I was embarrassed to be with him. I was really surprised because I'd been trying not to be clingy / cramp his style at all. I guess I want overboard giving him space. Other that discussion when we were figuring out each other's preferences I don't remember it being a problem. [/quote]

Yes!  Exactly.   You are mature and so is your husband.

Not everyone brings that maturity to a relationship.    It's tough to tell what's up with OP's ex boyfriend.   What his motive is.  Control or fear of abandonment.   But both stem from insecurity.  And whether OP sees it or not, it's not her job to fix this guy's insecurity.  He needs to do that himself, so that he can be a better partner to someone, like your husband is to you.[/quote]

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