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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would delete the last sentence. Instead, use something like, "Specifically, I'd like to work out between us how to better divide the help and emotional support she needs. How much money a month can each of us contribute? When can you visit her? When can she visit you? Who does mom call when she needs help with the (a)doctor, (b)dentist, (c)pharmacy, (d)Medicare, (e)grocery runs, (f) banking/checking, etc?" And then ask them to do a Skype meeting or a conference call.[/quote]

Thx good point! [/quote]

I would send a letter like the one above - just detailing the facts of what your mother needs and what needs to be divided up. I think you should delete the part of your original letter about feeling resentful and even the part about them not doing enough - trust me, that is ALL they will take away from the letter. All of the other words and thoughts will melt away and they will only read it as criticism and won't take it well.

Just be very matter of fact - this is what she needs, this is what we are able to do but we will need help. Can we talk about dividing up some of these responsibilities, etc.[/quote]

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