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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids are in school full time. I work 4 days a week and explicitly take Monday’s off (today) to do the exact chores you do not want to do.  This is because it benefits ALL of us.  By me doing all that I will do today, makes it so that the entire family can enjoy each other this week. I’ve already done all of the grocery shopping, all of the laundry (or at least what was left over from the weekend), I’m headed to Costco shortly, I’m working on meal prep for the entire week so dinners will take no more than 10min to assemble, and the house will be pretty much organized from top to bottom.

Frankly I do not see my abbreviated schedule as an opportunity for leisure, while my DH has to be at the office. I see it as an opportunity for our entire family to benefit from me powering through 8 hours of domestic work, so that all of us can have healthy meals, an organized home, and parents who get off work the rest of the week and can focus on family time, not running around stressed out.
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So you gave up 20% of your paid work in exchange for 100% of the housework? This is why I stay 100% at my paid job, I'd rather work than spend one day a week making the rest of the family have a smoother life. [/quote]

A smoother life for my family means a smoother life for me, plus healthy home cooked meals are a very high priprity for me. I don't resent doing things to create more family time and easy weeknights.  Almost every night since school has been in, we have all managed a bike ride together. Would never be able to do that and eat a home cooked meal if it were not for my 80% schedule.  Plus, this is such a great day. Right now Im grilling chicken breast for the week, listening to the breeze, and getting some sun. Wayyy better than being at the office right now.[/quote]

This sounds glorious. The perfect balance. I think we all could use a 3 day weekend and have that one day to prepare for the week, so that both people are not spending precious family time running errands. You still keep full time employment status, but can use that one day to do all of your doctors appointments, errands, and not have to go to the grocery store when everyone else is there. I too do a ton of meal prep and it SUCKS that it has to happen on Sundays when we really just want to hang with the kids.[/quote]

Why wouldn't you grocery shop and meal prep at night after the kids are in bed? I wouldn't give up a Sunday with my kids to shop and meal prep.  Also, other than grocery shopping, my family has no errands to do on a weekly basis. What kinds of errands are y'all doing regularly?[/quote]

I'm not he poster you are responding to, but my kids are in bed at 8:30, no way would I head out to the grocery store at 8:30PM and then start cooking up a storm. I'm in bed myself at 930, an hour of TV and then off to sleep.  On the very few occasions I've had to go to the store at night, half the produce shelves are empty. maybe for you it is great, doing these things as night, but having a day off from work to do that garbage while the kids are at school, having healthy meals prepped, and bike rides at night, sound like the perfect balance at night. Maybe you are just not into relaxing.  ((shrug))[/quote]

I'd rather go to the grocery store at night than watch TV.  I sleep from 11 pm to 6:30 am so in your house I'd have 2.5 hours between the kids' bedtime and mine. Why not put that time to good productive use?[/quote]

Because that sounds miserable and i'd never be able to work out if i went to bed that late. While yoi are sleeping in, Ive had 8hrs sleep and am exercising.  I'd live the doctors life any day, yours, not so much. Sounds awfully harried.[/quote]

I work out when I get up, every other day. 7 or 7.5 hours is plenty of sleep. [/quote]

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