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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I generally think that's fair since he makes more therefore presumably you all "need" his job more but you can discuss whether he has any flexibility to take time off sometimes. If you don't have family around who would take a sick kid to watch, you can also try to find a babysitter who could watch her on not particularly contagious days like ear infection. [/quote]
This attitude is risky. Endangering the lower paying job means 1) you have no fall back option if the higher earner loses their job, and 2) you very likely will reduce overall HHI over time since the net impact (let's say in future raises) is that the third time you miss work is likely to be more impactful than the first time you miss work.

But, marriages in 2017 are more than economic arrangements. Taking care of a sick kid is no fun, and it doesn't sound like you're comfortable being the default parent. Talk to your DH...and unless you negotiate all of your conflicts in financial terms, it's okay for part of the discussion to include what makes you happy. That could be having less sick kid duty...or it could be having a job, for whatever pay, which you are now in danger of losing.[/quote]

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