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[quote=Anonymous]NP here. I went PT about 6 years ago (60%) after having my second child. It had become a big struggle because my job required some travel, and DH's job required a lot of after hours work and business trips. I would encourage you to go into this with your eyes wide open.

One of the issues we faced before I went PT was the sick kid days/dr appts - the nature of DH's job was often such that he couldn't take a day off on a whim. Before I went PT, he took a day off with a sick child when I had started a new job. The praise he received from coworkers was shocking to me; meanwhile my new boss kept reassuring me that it was completely ok for me to take off so early in the game. That's the only sick day DH has taken for the kids.

Now that I'm PT, I do ALL of the sick days, dr appts, camp paperwork, school paperwork, etc.  Some of the latter is my fault because I don't ask him, or he's not home to ask, or it's just easier to fill out myself because I already know the dr phone number, the dentist's name, etc.

My kids are in school now and I have Fridays off completely. I use that day as "me" time and try to focus on doing things for myself. I do often do other things, but that's the general focus. We still have a housekeeper, lawn service, etc.

I just think this can be a slippery slope because you'll start to think, "oh yeah, I can swing by the drycleaner and pick up the drycleaning" or other random tasks, and then before you know it, you are doing all of it.

I've got a new PT job now, which I've learned is not PT - instead of 50%, I'm probably working 70%, which has significantly impacted my ability to do things at home. DH doesn't complain or anything, but I definitely feel pinched.

Good luck to you. There are a lot of sides to this equation.[/quote]

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